Wednesday, August 26, 2015


Cocky: noun
Overly self-assertive or self-confident.

I recently started the #becockymovement. I am very intentional in my use of cocky. 

James Baldwin once said , " There is something terribly radical about believing that one's own experience and images are important enough to speak about, much less to write about and to perform" . I have dedicated my platform to believing that my experience and the experience of other Black women are important enough to speak about, to write about, and to perform. To be radical, is to understand the root of the problem and commit oneself to uprooting the problem. To do opposite of what is fundamental and deemed "natural". While men are praised for being " arrogant" and " cocky", women are taught to be humble, coy, and "tame". There are many campaigns that tell women to be " confident" but I don't think the word "confidence" is as powerful as cockiness. I have watched how many have become uneasy with my use of cockiness. It is uncomfortable and shameful for a Black women to love herself unapologetically and assert her greatness. Serena Williams is the best athlete of our time and yet is told to remain humble. So if Serena Williams cant be cocky then who can?

I believe that every Black woman should be overly self-assertive and overly self-confident because the world around us renders us invisible. Everyday we are erased. Everyday we are policed. Everyday we are critiqued. Everyday we are asked to prove our humanity. For many of us, no amount of self-confidence and high self-esteem can trump society's negativity. It is up to us to affirm ourselves and one another. So with that #becocky ladies. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday.

Be peculiar. Be strange. Be weird. Be bold. Be corky. Be awkward. Be extraordinary. Be phenomenal. Be great. Be you. Be unapologetically You. 

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